Love Languages

I had thought to write about Love Languages because of having this conversation with more than one person in the last week. I am sure many of you have heard of the Five Love Languages which is a book written by Gary Chapman. I think that it is such an applicable idea that he has. Basically he says that a person experiences love in five different ways: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, and acts of service. So the thought is basically that a person feels most loved when they are shown love in a certain way and if they are shown in a different way it might not mean as much. 

I can personally say that I can look back on my life and tell where this has come into play. I feel like I refer back to my dad a lot but I also think it is easy to relate a relationship with a father to a relationship with God. However, I am very certain that my dad is an acts of service man. He is always working, providing, and doing things for our family. However, I am a physical touch person. So, I would always get frustrated when I was younger that my daddy wouldn't walk up and give me a hug. Why was he washing my car for me or changing the oil when all I wanted was a hug? It was years later, gosh sometimes I feel so old!, that I realized that he was loving me! He was doing all these things for me that I needed or that would make my life easier. He would say that I needed to contribute more to the family and do some work around the house and farm. I guess that would prove my love. So, it was a misunderstanding for years that left us, it could be any relationship you might have, wanting more from the other. 

So now that I have realized this, I try to when I am home to go out with him and cut the grass or help drag fallen trees out of the pond with the tractor. He has realized I think that when I see him all I want is a really long and tight bear hug with a kiss. We both are sinful humans and fail each the other often. 

So I challenge you to find out your love language and try to see what your friends are as well. If you put others above yourself, then this could be a direct way to show them how much you are glad that they are your friend. So on that note, I would absolutely love it if you all would tell me about yourself so that I can know how you feel most loved because that is what I want to do, LOVE PEOPLE! 

I will let you know how I rank in case you are interested:

1. Physical Touch - 10

2. Quality Time - 9

3. Words of Affirmation - 7

4. Acts of Service - 3

5. Receiving Gifts - 1

If you want to take a quick online assesment then I recommend:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/ 

I want to hear back from you guys!